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2013 Dating Resolutions

It’s that time of the year again; time to start making resolutions that will ensure the coming year is even better than the last one. If you’re stuck in a dating rut then now is the perfect time to start thinking about how you can make some positive changes to your love life this year. Here are You’ve Pulled’s top resolutions to make you a better dater in 2013.

Let go of any baggage – Don’t go into the New Year harbouring bad feelings from past relationships. We’ve all dated someone who wasn’t right for us or suffered a broken heart at some point. However, now is the time to put anything that has happened previously down to experience, and learn from it. So stop wasting time on old feelings and remember the quote, ‘love like you’ve never been hurt’.

Change your outlook – If you’ve been single for a while it can be all too easy to have a ‘poor old me’ attitude and start to question ‘what’s wrong with me’. However, just because you haven’t got a partner doesn’t mean you’re any less attractive, clever or successful than anyone else. So change your outlook from negative to positive because when you take the steps to get clear on what you want, and be the most confident (and happy) version of yourself, you will be on your way to finding that perfect person.

Take up a new hobby – If you’re passionate about something or fancy learning a new skill then the New Year is the perfect time. By taking up a new hobby or enrolling in a class you’ll not only be doing something you love, but you’ll also have the opportunity to meet lots of new people. Best of all, if you do meet anyone you’ll already have one thing in common.

Change your routine – It may sound silly but even making small changes to your daily routine could lead to new love. Think about it; if you take the same route to work every day, buy your coffee in the same shop and go to the same bars, you’re probably going to meet the same types of people. However, by making simple changes to your routine you’re effectively changing the types of people you’re coming in contact with and you never know, you might just meet the person of your dreams.

Say ‘Yes’ to more dates – Sometimes we dismiss people too easily because they haven’t got the right look, we don’t have enough things in common with them or simply because we can’t be bothered. However, if you’re serious about finding someone maybe it’s time to let go of your ‘type’, stop thinking of reasons why you can’t date someone and just say yes. The more dates you go on the more you’ll realise exactly what it is you do want. Besides, you’ll have lots of fun along the way.

Get online – If you put your love life on hold last year because you were too busy with other things then why not make this year the year for finding love. Online dating makes it so much easier to find love and arrange dates in-between your hectic schedule. You can browse, find and chat to other singles on your commute to work, on your lunch and in-between going to the gym and cooking your dinner, so there really is no excuse. What’s more, right now you can receive 50% off 1 months’ membership with offer code BRINGON2013*.

So what are you waiting for? Get the New Year off to a great start by making some dating resolutions that count. Who knows what could happen in 2013?

*Offer ends on Jan 6th 2013 at midnight. You will be re-billed at the standard price of 1 months’ membership unless you cancel your membership.

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Tips for Successful Text Dating on Your Mobile

If your busy schedule does not allow you to have long conversations on the phone with potential dates, then you should try text dating. Text dating is a lot less time-consuming than phone dating, but it can give you the same results if it is done the right way. Here are some tips that can help you text date successfully on your mobile:

Be Different

Many people like to “play it cool” when they are talking to new friends or potential love interests, but it does not work with everybody. Playing it cool means that you are not getting straight to the point, and it can slow down the progress of relationships. Instead of doing what most people are doing, you should try to be different. If you are interested in someone, it is best that you text him or her right away. It is important that you let your potential dates know that you are keen initially, and you can play it cool after their guard is down.

Send Messages on One-for-One Basis

Try not to send more messages than you receive. If you send a message and do not receive a reply after a day or two, do not panic. Everybody has their own lives to live and things to do. The people you send messages to may be busy with work or have other important things to attend to, and they need more time to reply your messages. If you are getting more messages than you are sending out, it is a sign that things are going well.

Avoid Text-Speak

While it is common for people to use short hand when writing text messages, it is best that you use full sentences when you are communicating with your potential romantic interests. It will show that you are sincere, and you want to make sure that they get the full meaning of every message you send to them.

Get to the Point

All the text messages you send should achieve something specific. If you want to arrange a meeting with someone, you should let him or her know your intention, but try to ask in a creative way. If you send too many pointless messages, you will just end up becoming his or her text buddy.

Do Not Rush In

When you ask your potential love interests to go out on a date with you, it is not a good idea to ask them directly. Instead, ask questions that will lead to the invitation. For instance, if you want to have dinner with them, ask them to name their favorite food and suggest visiting a restaurant that serves that kind of food.

Keep Things in Context

Follow the rules and etiquette of text dating, and stay focused on your goal. Every message you send should bring you closer to the realization of that goal. Write messages that are short, fun, and sweet, and do not feel stressed over late replies. As long as your potential dates keep sending messages to you, it means that you are still on their minds, and you still have a chance to win their hearts.

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Chat Up Lines

It seems as though chat up lines have got themselves a bad reputation over the years. In our upside down world of dating where there is no longer a dating etiquette, chat-up lines have become hugely associated with being ‘hit on’ in a bar or club by undesirable characters (we’ve all been there). The truth is though; meeting new people isn’t easy and approaching new people is even harder. What do you say? Do you introduce yourself? Do you talk about the weather? See, not that easy.

It’s a common misconception that woman hate chat up lines, but the truth is they can sometimes prove to be great ice breakers. In fact it has been found that women are more likely to fall for a man if he breaks the ice with a cheesy chat up line. The theory being that women appreciate a man with a sense of humour, and a chat-up line is a good way to display that. Having a ‘ballsy’ or confident attitude is also very attractive to the opposite sex. You see, chat-up lines are just a way of grabbing someone’s attention and showing them that you like them in a light-hearted way. And there’s no harm in that is there?

So we think it’s time to make a stand and bring back the good old chat-up line. Not the creepy type that is likely to get you slapped, but the fun and cheeky type that is likely to get you talking – if not get you a date. To get the ball rolling we’ve done a little research of our own and found some of the best, the worst, and the down-right cheesiest chat up lines. Who knows, you may even want to put some of them into practice…

The good

  • I lost my phone number, can I borrow yours?
  • Hi, I’m Mr. Right. Someone said you were looking for me.
  • You see my friend over there? He wants to know if you think I’m cute?

The bad

  • Can I have a picture of you so I can show Santa what I want for Christmas?
  • Are you a parking ticket, because you have got fine written all over you!
  • If I had one chance to rearrange the alphabet, I would put U and I together.

The cheesy

  • Did it hurt? When you fell out of heaven.
  • Do you believe in love at first sight … or should I walk past again?
  • The only thing your eyes haven’t told me is your name.

Ok so even the good ones are a little cheesy, but that shouldn’t stop you! Why not pick your favourite and road test it next time you see somebody you like. You might have some rejections (it happens to everyone), you will most definitely have some laughs, but best of all, you might get yourself a date!

*Warning: These chat up lines are no guarantee that you will pull.

 

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What Not to Say on a First Date

Last month we gave you some helpful ‘first date conversation tips’ so you’d never be stuck for something to say on a first date. However, what happens when nerves get the better of you and you let your tongue runs away with itself, perhaps having too much to say? You end up revealing too much and scaring your date off before you’ve even reached the main course that’s what! So to help make sure you keep the conversation on track here’s what not to say on a first date.

Bad mouthing your ex – This really is a no brainer but on a first date you really shouldn’t be talking about your ex. Not only is it a huge turn off but it could also suggest that you’re not quite over your previous relationship!

Financial problems- This is way too much information for a first date not to mention a major turn off. Discussing your credit card problems or your low salary is not appropriate first date chit chat. And whatever you do don’t order the most expensive thing on the menu and expect your date to pay!

You want kids and marriage ASAP – Start talking about marriage and kids on a first date and you’re only going to send off one signal – desperate! Harsh but true. Marriage and kids is something that most people see in their future but don’t get ahead of yourself and save that conversation for when things are a little more serious.

“I love you” – This one speaks for itself! Sure someone people fall in love quickly, but on a first date? If you don’t want to scare your date off completely save these three little words for a lot further down the line.

Insecurities –Sure, we all have insecurities, we’re only human after all. However, talking about them will only make you feel worse about yourself not to mention bring the mood of the date down. As bad as it sounds your date isn’t there to be your agony aunt. They’re there to find out what’s great about you!

“Can I take your picture?” – Unless you want to send your date running in the opposite direction do not say this! You might want to show your date off to your friends but this will just come across a little, well, stalker’ish. Plus, you can always see their photo on You’ve Pulled.

 

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Need help starting a conversation?

So you’ve finally plucked up the courage to take your cyber romance offline and see if you can stand the test of real chemistry. Meeting someone for the first time can seem daunting, but it needn’t be. Read on to find out our top conversation starters which are guaranteed to keep the conversation flowing!

Breaking the ice –Talk about your day, talk about the weather, talk about your journey to meet your date. Although these topics may seem rather mundane they are perfect for breaking the ice. They also give you a great opportunity to suss out those all-important first impressions.

Current Affairs – What’s going on in the news? Are there any TV programmes that you are particularly into? Or what about a bit of celebrity gossip? Everyone has their own opinions on current affairs, popular culture and TV shows so it’s a great starting point and a great stepping stone to lead conversation elsewhere.

Family – Talking about each other’s families is a fairly safe and easy topic. It invites your date into your world and allows you to open up a little more.

Work –What you do, how you got into it, the good the bad. For most people work is a big part of their life so there should be plenty to talk about. Be warned though, if they hate their job you may need to steer the conversation on to something else. Perhaps…

Winning Big – What would you do if you won the lottery? Everyone loves this question because you can really let yourself get carried away and create your dream life; a pretty good insight into one another’s desires.

Films – A person’s taste in films can say a lot about their character. It’s also a great way to see if you have anything in common.

Dream Dinner Party – Ask your date who they’d invite – dead or alive – to their dream dinner party. Another great question which allows you both to get day dreamy and also gives you a good idea of the types of people you are.

Phobias – Finding out about your date’s phobias is a great way to create a bond between the two of you as it shows your vulnerable side. It can also be a great way to triggers some funny anecdotes. Plus, if one of you is scared of spiders and the other doesn’t mind catching them, well then you could be a match made in heaven!

Desert Island – Another open ended question and one that can easily lead you onto other conversations is ‘what three items would you take to a desert island’. It’s a fun way to find out what is important to your date.

People Watch – People watching is great fun and it gives you plenty to talk about. Make up stories about the other people for example, why they might be there or what their story is. The more imaginative the better and the more likely it is that you’ll get your date laughing!

Sounds so easy doesn’t it? Why not put these tips to good use next time you go on a first date and that way, you can spend less time stressing and more time impressing!

 

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You’ve Pulled presents the top ten tips for pulling

Woman winkingFed up with being more George Formby than George Clooney? Don’t despair as the YP team have put together the top ten pulling tips to guarantee success. After years of hard research trawling through bars, clubs, and alley ways in search of the opposite sex…we have put together this valuable tome to help one and all in their quest for pulling.

These simple rules apply to both guys and girls.

  1. Clean your teeth – a clean mouth is a happy mouth. The best chat up line in the World won’t help you if it’s caked in gaseous toxic bad breath. Use some mouth freshener and make sure that lamb chop you had for dinner isn’t sticking out your front incisor.
  2. The numbers game – follow the rules of probability! Probability is a way of expressing knowledge or belief that an event will occur or has occurred – simply put the more people you approach the higher your chance of pulling success. Simple!
  3. Timing – this should be linked to the probability tip above. Give yourself plenty of time. Don’t leave everything to the last minute – we’ve all been there when panic sets in ten minutes before the club is about to close and you realise that you should of got in there earlier so don’t wait till the last minute and remember the 3 P’s of pulling – planning, preparation and presentation,.
  4. Be realistic – beauty and the beast is a fairy tale! Beauty only tends to go for the beast if he/she is an A lister or if you have the cash funds of a Saudi prince. So stick to people who you have a reasonable chance with. You could increase your chances by actually playing below par – a friend of mine used to say ‘go ugly early to avoid the rush’ that way he knew he had a high chance of success. It’s a funny old game this pulling lark!
  5. Alcohol – let’s be honest we all love it! Be it ten pints of lager, a couple of bottles of Blossom Hill or a few glasses of Disaronno. It gets us going and in the mood. Just the right amount can make us funnier, more confident and more relaxed…but don’t go too far as it can oh so easily go horribly wrong. So know your limits and watch out for those beer goggles to avoid any nasty shocks the next morning.
  6. Chat up lines – Grab your coat…You’ve Pulled!! – do any of these actually work? The truth is no…well not that we have found. With the risk of sounding a bit lame, you have to be yourself – well actually be just the good bits of yourself – funnier, more intelligent and mysterious than you would normally be. I mean you wouldn’t be yourself in a job interview would you? So just treat it as the same thing – an interview to… err…getting laid!
  7.  Appearance – which would you rather unwrap? The present in the cheap brown paper or the expensive looking sparkly paper one with a bow! Be that expensive present and dress well and maybe someone will want to unwrap you. We ain’t got time to go through the whole Gok Wan lesson in what or what not to wear so just dress well and use some common sense i.e. 20 stone + hot pants = misery.
  8. Humour – You don’t have to have the razor sharp intellect of Stephen Fry, just try and show you have a few brain cells in there with a little flirty witty conversation. Keep jokes cheeky and clean. Again, be careful with the alcohol on this one. Start slurring your words and it’s game over.
  9. Friends – an under valued commodity in the dating game – they can be a good source of providing possible targets, they can be used to do your bidding – “excuse me…my mate fancies you” and most importantly they are there to back you up (laugh at you) should you fail on the pulling task.
  10.  Technology – this is the 21st Century baby! The micro chip has had a big stake in today’s dating game – online dating, text messages, phone chat, chat rooms, social networks – you name it you’ll find it and they are all designed to get you chatting and meeting people. So give it a go…Hell you could even try You’ve Pulled.com and see if you can pull online, by text or on the phone. What have you got to lose?