Before you embark on meeting up with the sexy stranger you’ve been flirting with and chatting to on the UK’s busiest phone chat line, it’s highly recommended that you consider your potential chat topics. What you chat about on a first date can greatly influence the perception of you that the other person gets, and lead to dating success or failure.
You’ll naturally want to impress your date with your personality, sense of humour, and communication skills. While it’s definitely a good idea to have a repertoire of chat topics, to ensure that the conversation is relaxed and flowing, there are some hot topics that are best avoided…
Dating & Romance Failures
You’ve been busy chatting, texting and flirting with someone who caught your eye on You’ve Pulled’s instant and totally anonymous 24/7 chat line, and now you’re keen to get to know this person better. Exploring common ground and shared experiences is usually where most people start, when trying to build rapport and a connection with someone they like.
As you’ve met on a flirt and date chat line, it makes sense to talk about each other’s past romantic experiences. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with briefly mentioning previous dates who’ve been on, provided that it’s not an endless list. Going into detail and describing past first date disasters, and your impressive ability to pick losers, should also be avoided. Your date also doesn’t want to hear the horror stories and dysfunctional dramas about how crazy your ex was. Save the complaining for conversations with your friends.
A first date is a prime opportunity to get to know someone new without having to dredge up your entire relationship history. Focus instead on discussing your ambitions in life, and your bucket list.
Money
Talking about money is superficial and can make people feel instantly uncomfortable and awkward. Money talk can give the impression that you’re financially motivated (not a good way), or label you a gold digger. If someone’s solvency status is important to you, check out your date’s clothes and grooming habits for hints and clues of their wealth.
First date banter should be light and fun, so swap a serious subject for a topic that makes you smile and laugh. Talk about your favourite comedy shows and movies, and share tales of funny experiences you’d had that will make your date laugh out loud.
Controversial Stuff
There’s no quicker way to spoil the mood on a first date than by bringing up controversial matters like religion and politics. Everyone has unique beliefs and personal values, but a first date is not the occasion to explore these. To avoid having a heated debate, swerve these topics – unless you have a day job as a member of the clergy or a politician, and you have a juicy piece of hot gossip to share.
If you love controversy, talk about subjects that you know really well, and your unusual hobbies. Your date will find it fascinating learning all about something they’ve never experienced.
Sex
If you’re been flirting outrageously on the UK’s busiest phone chat line, there’s a high probability that your banter has had sexual undertones. When you met in person for the first time though, it’s best to skip talking about sex. Talking about it increases the possibility of ending up in bed and having a one-night stand. If you’re keen on this person, that spur-of-the-moment experience may scupper your chances of a second date.
If you don’t want your date to run a mile, don’t chat about your promiscuous past, one-night-conquests and long list of sexual fantasies. Reserve the flirtation for your eye contact and body language, and talk about art, music, travel, and other things you are equally passionate about instead.
You
Yes, it’s great that you’re awesome, super confident and have high self-esteem, but endlessly talking about yourself will make your date feel that you don’t really have time for anyone else. Listening to someone’s self-adulation quickly kills the conversation, and extinguishes any chemistry or spark that may have been igniting.
Create an air of mystery about yourself, and increase your date’s interest in you, by turning the tables and showing undivided attention. Make them feel special by asking thoughtful questions, and actively listening. By the end of your date, they will have a higher opinion of you than if you had babbled on for hours and made the conversation all about you.